Clarification and advice
Due to my experience in psychotherapy and counselling, I attach great importance to a careful clarification. In one or more preliminary talks I will therefore discuss your concerns with you, and together we will discuss which offer is best for you. If I cannot offer you treatment, I can refer you to suitable specialists.
As a psychoanalyst I have a very specific attitude: I meet my counterpart in the knowledge that his inner life is highly complex and that his speech communicates conscious and unconscious things. In the words that my counterpart addresses to me, therefore, nothing is trivial for me, but everything is meaningful. I direct my attention to everything that is expressed in his statements; especially I hear what resonates in them from his desires and fears, from his joy and suffering.
Psychoanalysis assumes that our inner life is characterized by conflicting desires and fears; we are constantly in a state of tension between opposing aspirations and are constantly striving for our inner balance. In this effort we cope with unpleasant and frightening things by repressing them and making them unconscious. This strategy is useful and helps us to maintain our mental balance.
Our strategies of repression only become problematic when they overreact, so to speak, when they become too rigid or inappropriate, or when repressed desires, fears and inner conflicts do not allow us to rest. The price for an inappropriate handling of our wishes and fears can be a loss of joie de vivre or a feeling of senselessness – among other things, excessive stress, fear or depression can be the result. This is the origin of mental illness, as psychoanalysis understands it. For psychoanalysis, therefore, whether someone needs treatment is not a question of being “normal” or “not normal”, but depends on whether someone is suffering.
It’s true: From a psychoanalytical standpoint, our past is formative. But as a psychoanalyst I am not interested in “poking into the past” on principle. What we question in psychoanalytic treatment is what makes us suffer from our past today and what can make life difficult in the future. As a psychoanalyst I try to understand in conversation which fears and desires collide with each other, with which inner conflict someone comes to me or which needs he or she wants to hush up and cannot. This is the purpose of conversation in psychoanalysis – it creates a place for the unconscious to be heard. I talk and discuss with you about this, you tell me what is going on in you, I am sometimes silent about this, I occasionally take a stand and together with you I question what I hear and what we say.
Psychoanalysis is effective
Psychoanalysis is effective because painful experiences, inner psychological conflicts and deadlocked strategies of repression can be reconsidered and changed in the here and now of the conversation. The goal of our work is that you can find a new way of dealing with your experiences, wishes and fears, through which you suffer less and at least no longer stand in your own way; a way through which you gain more serenity, confidence and joy of life.